Dungeon Prompts ~ Love ~ What’s love got to do with it?

DUNGEON PROMPTS – SEASON 2, WEEK 12: WHAT DOES LOVE LOOK LIKE?

Suggested Prompts:

*Does it come in the form of a beautiful face that takes your breath away, or is it the courage that makes one stand up and take on injustice and causes everyone around to get up and stand with them?  Is it universal, unconditional, and all expansive, or is it a secret hidden away, nurtured and protected, in the safety of your heart?  What does love look like to you?

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What did I used to think love was?

I put the lyrics to Tina Turners song because I guess when I was younger I used to think this was what love was about.  It was really lust I guess.  I used to think that love was the same thing for everyone, that it was like a recipe consisting of X,Y & Z and that if you had/experienced this, this was love.  How wrong was I?

“What’s Love Got To Do With It”

You must understand
That the touch of your hand
Makes my pulse react
That it’s only the thrill
Of boy meeting girl
Opposites attractIt’s physical
Only logical
You must try to ignore
That it means more than that[Chorus:]
Oh what’s love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a second hand emotion
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart
When a heart can be brokenIt may seem to you
That I’m acting confused
When you’re close to me
If I tend to look dazed
I’ve read it someplace
I’ve got cause to beThere’s a name for it
There’s a phrase that fits
But whatever the reason
You do it for me[Chorus]I’ve been taking on a new direction
But I have to say
I’ve been thinking about my own protection
It scares me to feel this way[Chorus]What’s love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a sweet old fashioned notion
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken
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What about love?

Everyone is different, so how can love be the same from one person to the other? So this must mean there are different types of loves, for we are all different.  You can’t put your finger on it and come out with an equation that you must feel or have this for it to be love.  If it is love in your mind, it just is, isn’t it?

It is important what you do with this so called love though.

I used to think that love would cause a cemented bond between you and the other person, I was wrong.  I learned the hard way.  Just because you are loved or love both ways, it does not mean you have security, never take it for granted, never think it is unconditional.  We are humans with varying emotions and skillsets emotionally and manipulate and chose how we react, store and interpret this love.

You can imagine the love of a parent to child unconditional, cannot be broken, I learned that a fathers love can be tucked away, it is not unconditional.  I learned that people can just switch their love off somehow like an on/off button.  Can I do it?  No, but others can.

Do I trust love?

I guess not really, not wholeheartedly like I used to, it is like a little bit of me checks over my shoulder when it relates to love from one person to another.

But what other type of love is there for me?

statue of mother and child
“You don’t understand,’ she said, and there was a puzzling trace of resentment in her voice. ‘Children never do. The love a parent has for a child, there’s nothing else like it. No other love so consuming.”
― Cassandra Clare, City of Ashes

I love my children, unconditionally.  I know this.  I will always love them, will I always like them, that isn’t set in stone, but love, yes.

I think we have to love the world we live in, in order to love our selves and humanity.  Love cannot be insular, it cannot really be just for oneself, selective, tucked away, it should be shared.

In that I mean, to learn to love why we are here.  To learn to love nature, the glory and fragility of it.  To learn to love humankind en-masse, to have faith in ‘something’.  This isn’t about religion, it’s just about being.

sunlit flower
“The earth laughs in flowers.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Love to me is walking out of my front door, seeing the sun glint through the clouds, the petals of a flower becoming semi translucent as the rays break through the thin veins of colour.

My eyes then lifting, smelling the scent of nature, my ears hearing the sounds of birds, a child, social communication between mankind, words of kindness, protection and yes, love in each and everyone’s unique way.

We can’t really exist without this surely?

That is what love is for me, how I see it in my every day life.

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10 thoughts on “Dungeon Prompts ~ Love ~ What’s love got to do with it?

  1. Love this one and how you look at love in general. It is different for all of us and constantly changing from one stage to another. One thing for sure, is maturity definitely makes me view love differently than when I was young. For many reasons I think. One because, like you pointed out, love goes much deeper than the excitement of someone being physically close. Also, because each time I get hurt I close myself off a little bit more. The boundaries change as the definition changes too. Anyway, you made me think ♥️

    1. Thank you yes I know what you mean. I think devotion, commitment and loyalty come under or make the umbrella of love there are so many differing components for everyone. I guess I focus less on love and more on other things now in my conscious mind 🙂

  2. Even though Tina’s views on love are very pessimistic I really enjoyed listening to the song. I’ve been to two Tina Turner concerts in my life and loved them. Hearing the song brought back some very fond and treasured memories.

    Thanks for your exploration of what love means to you. I especially appreciated this part:

    “Love to me is walking out of my front door, seeing the sun glint through the clouds, the petals of a flower becoming semi translucent as the rays break through the thin veins of colour. My eyes then lifting, smelling the scent of nature, my ears hearing the sounds of birds, a child, social communication between mankind, words of kindness, protection and yes, love in each and everyone’s unique way.”

    I am very much into vermi-composting. I started a new worm bin today. I love working with the worms. Never thought of that as being a part of what love means to me but as I read your piece I realize it is!

    1. Gosh you are so lucky having been to a Tina Turner concert that must have been fabulous, she didnt really have an easy time with love did she?

      That bit you posted of mine, I had a photo of a flower I had taken recently in my mind when I wrote that, when I had gone for a walk locally recently so it was exactly as i felt, I thought about ‘trying’ to make it in to a poem, but feeling a bit shy about that right now lol.

      I don’t know about vermi composting,but I have just learned about what we call ‘bug hotels’ where you build up layers of wood and put compost and other materials between and various bugs learn to live in there then sometimes there is a bird feeder on top. I have just taken some pictures of these all made out of recycling they look great. They are from the Wetlands Centre which i visited recently and will be posting on my livingineastsheen blog…it might be similar to what you do but I have no idea.

      Oh, yes, also I had some zero balancing today and woohoo really odd, my teacher has met ama, not once but twice Oh my and had hugs, what a small world it is and she has a friend who lives in the ashram with Sreejit…really small world x

      1. I love those kind of synchronicities. I probably know your teachers friend too!

        I’ve heard of bug hotels but I’ve never seen one. I write a GreenFriends newsletter and would love to have a short article and pictures about your bug hotel to put in the newsletter if you would like to submit it! Here are two links for the most recent newsletters: http://amma.org/sites/default/files/litterprojectnewsletterfeb2014.pdf and http://amma.org/sites/default/files/litterprojectnewslettermarnew2014.pdf. My email address is on the first page.

        Vermicomposting is composting using worms. There are all kinds of bins you can use for that process. The simplified explanation is that you feed the worms and their poop makes some of the richest fertilizer that is possible! You can find lots on the web about it.

        Yes, it is a small world! 🙂

        1. Hehe thank you , thats very exciting being asked to write something. I have sent you an email from my livingineastsheen gmail account, incase you wonder who it is from, my name is Justine. In it I have put two links, one is for the Community Event that involved Ebay making a bug hotel and the second link is for a post I just put out, on the WWF Wetlands Centre in Barnes, near where I live, you might just like the post for the sake of it, but it also includes a picture of an amazing bug hotel. I have never actually made one myself but think they are a great idea. We have a small garden but certainly might try to make something like the one from the WWF it is art in itself.

          Please let me know what you think 🙂

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